Love Vs Arranged Marriage ( ; )initiated by PankajJuneja on January 04, 2007 Guys lets have one on one on this Age Old topic. Which is the Best ?? Love or Arranged Marriage. We have been listening from a long time now that stats show that Arranged Marriages are more successful than Love.More divorce happen in Love marriage because you expect more form your better half after marriage... But Seriously is this the only Reason of shattering Love Marraiges ???? |
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At least specify which one do you "like". I'd suggest renaming the topic to "love marriages better than arranged marriage.
Waise i personally favor arranged marriage!
I prefer love marriage as i feel two ppl who are known to each other can adjust better than two strangers...
As far as divorces are concerned, they can happen with both types of marriages.. as it is a long life after marriage.
No I dont want to bias the topic. I just want to listen on both sides.. So Mr. Anshu .u like Arranged Marriage ? You shud be having some specific Reason for disliking Love Marriage??...
Pankaj, as the word defines itself, arrange marrige means arrangement is being made b/w 2 genders... so u don't have any expectations, you don't know what worse or good you will face, and marrige is all about how good you can handle the relation. since you are the only bridge b/w ur family and ur wife so u have to b sometimes diplomatic and sometimes clever to make up the situation which can worse the scene. if other person also thinks like you, and even the family thinks of accepting a new advisory, helper, face, person, member, their son's partner then there is no problem, but if they feel she is interfaring and this is not her family then probs are there. So in arrange the more depends on you and family, and girl's temper and nature, she has to be adjusting, compromising at times.
But in case of love marriges, you do what you wnat, not what your parents want so gurl and boy they both know they have to compromise, adjust, listen to them and have to ignore somethings which can create mis understanding, since they are already prepared for the stuff so its easy for them to handle it.
But if the bridge, i.e. you is not strong enough and one day gets fed up of tu tu mein mein, then probs gets worse and divorce things comes up, so bridge has to be strong and a bit clever and diplomatic, so that situation can be handled. before marrige you always show your best to the other half and seethe best of other half but when you live in your daily routine life, you know actually what the other half is, and same with her, and if this best things fades of soon, then this can be another reason that the bridge gets baised on one side.
problems ccan arise even after 7 yrs. of marrige, but the only thing is you are the one who can handle everything or make the thing worse so you are the one who has to be alwayz cool, and make other realize yeh to choti batein hain and keep your other part cool, you will enjoy your life.
one more thing, in army if you ask for a holiday, then u r told "Jawan aaj chuti par hai aur purrey din ghaas katega" so army people follow one rule, if someone is idle he starts to think and he start seeing beautiful thnigs on the other side, so even if they are on holiday they keep them busy so that they can't think or divert there mind in useless things, so if there are things to do for ur family and wife then they will hardly have time to fight or look for reasons, but if they are at home sittin idle they will one day end up with a tu tu mein mein, and thodi bauth har ghar mein to hoti hi hai...
This was my point of view for marriges, so its arrange or love, the thing matters most is the bridge, if u get baised with any one of the port you will leave the other one....
May god bless everyone with happiness .. Ameen. :)
I will take that a Like is for a love marriage and a Hate is for an arrange marriage. Personally I feel that a love marriage much more successful than an arrange marriage. I know the stats which you are talking about and I agree to them but still if look deeper in the relationship you will know that the love marriages which are successful are 100 times more enjoyable and happier than their counterparts.
The only difference I see between the two is that in love marriages you first fall in love and then marry and on the other hand in arrange marriages you first marry and then fall in love.
P.S. I think that while posting these kinda items, it would be a good idea to specify what like and hate means in the first line itself.
Well....if I have to choose, then i will prefer to arrange a marriage for my myself rather than going for a arranged marriage.Marriage in itself is a big gamble , be it love or arranged...so the game is all about choosing an option that involves less of gambling!!!
marrige is nota gamble, but its just a part of life which makes you complete, and its not about the option, its about what you have to be with for day and night, in the bed and at breakfast, so when you have to take a desicion then you know the value of that desicion, at our age its easy to say, we have to choose, but ppl who suffered and ppl who are happy knows the exact meanin of the choice
But I beleive marriage is a big gamble which can decide the rest of your life...
I would like to go for love marriage....In love marriage you know the other person very well....
u know about the nature, habits, hobbies, attitude etc.... thats why u have fallen in love with him/her. That means ur nature, habits etc are compatible with the person you love....
but in arrange marriage u have to understand all these things first and adjust yourself accordingly...so many times it is compromise in arrange marriages..
But on top of everything it is "you" who can make any kind marriage successful
Agreed! to the last bit
I will take a like for arrange marriage but also I don't hate love marriages.
Actually I would prefer arrange marriage for me...
The first n foremost thing is that our parents have some dreams regarding us,so it is better to make them decision or choice regarding better half of our life...they always fulfill our each n every wish,so can't we fulfill there only one dream or wish they r having from the time of our birth...
As far as prblms are concerned there may be prblm in any relationship..
But if there is a prblm in love marriage which happen against parents nobody is with us,even all blame us.In case of arrange marriage we have a support of our family,that's it.
For keeping any relationship strong forever,it is must that there should be mutual understanding between the two...each one have to take care of likings n dislikings of the other..
Sorry bhukku,but its not like that ki it is compromise in arrange marriage,we also have to make compromises in love marriages too.its never possible that two persons have same nature,habits ,hobbies etc,maybe to less/more extent they match...
Ya I agreed that it is "U" who can make any kinda marriage successful.
So whether its love or arrange marriage we must have respect for each other,there must be understanding between the two and ya adjustments n compromises also.